I’m on a bit of a habit tackling mission at the moment and one of the barriers I’m finding is that I habitually beat myself up about everything!
Does anyone else have this problem?
It’s coming to the surface at the moment because I am learning about mindfulness, loving kindness practice and self-compassion and it is amazing how negatively I talk to myself to get something done.
In a target driven environment it has always served me to be this way but what I’m trying to do now is rewire my brain that this ‘stick’ approach has a cost.
On a recent call I was asked – do you speak to your friends and family like this?
The answer is of course no!
The renowned psychologist Kristen Neff said that the ‘behaviour of beating yourself up may never change’ which in a strange way brings comfort because I’m not trying to force change, just to be aware of the inner critic.
The mantra ‘I’m doing the best I can right now’ is comforting and also true as we all are….
But it doesn’t stop the inner critic chiming in with ‘that sounds like loser talk to me!!’
